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October 28

Wonderful Table Topics

I attended the Division B speech contest held at Sunday as an audience. It was great opportunity to observe those good speakers and I'd like to summarize my learnings here -
 
1. The use of Ah - Never have it if possible. My past observation is that native english speakers seldom have ah in their speeches while many native chinese speakers tend to have a lot of ah's even when they are speaking in Chinese. It's wierd, right? Ah's generally indicate we are not ready for what to say next. My conclusion is that english is lengthy while chinese is concise. In the same time duration,  using chinese can deliver more information than using english. Chinese speakers speak faster than they think while english speakers think faster than they speak. They should be thinking in the same speed. So the tip to avoid ah is to slow down our pace a little.
 
2. Language - Language is a tool for communication. Many people think it's ok as long as we can convey our message. It may be true for one to one conversations. I doubt it when coming to speeches, which is generally one to many. Both grammar errors and influency reduce our credibility and make us ineffective in front of a big audience. So improve our language first if we want to do public speech.
 
3. Good structure - Have an opening and a strong conclusion no matter what we are talking about. It just makes our speech more convincing whatever we are saying in the body part. No more to say as i have talked this a little bit i a former educational speech.
 
4. Humor - We cannot win best table topic without laughter from the audience. Humor is necessary in the delivery of any speeches unless improper. Fun points in a speech keep the audience concentrating on our speech and help them to undertsand our purpose.
 
5. Gorgeous words and sentences - Nontrivial words, triads and parallelism make our speeches splendid. They are not necessary for communication but to show, win and make us unique. The best table topic speaker used "rainbow" to describe the color of Beijing and then got the first place. It's definitely more unique than saying Beijing is multi-colored. I once used 3 forms of the same word - performance, perform and performer and it seemed many people like that. So as triads and parallelism. These gorgeous words and sentence can change our speeches from average to above average.
 
Just my personal opinions about delivering table topics. These techniques can also be used in prepared speeches. Practice can help us to make these techniques become our instincts.
 
Generally speaking, public speaking is also a kind of performance and some kind of exaggeration is necessary. :)
November 04

Dynamics

A good saying - It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is the most adaptable to change.
 
There are just so many dynamics.
October 21

完美主义者

最近很多人推荐这个9型人格测试http://www.outosky.com/9/nine.asp。试了一下,发现自己没变太多,还是有点追求完美 :)
 
第一型完美型
一号特性:改革者

基本恐惧:怕自己错、变坏、被腐败

基本欲望:希望自己是对的、好的、贞洁的、有诚信的

对自己的要求:只要我做得对,我就 OKAY 了。

特质:世界是黑白分明的,对是对,错是错;做人一定要公正,有节制;做事一定要有效率。

顺境 ( 被认同时 ) : 追求崇高的理想,追求完美

逆境 ( 不被认同时 ) :过度批判,缺乏弹性,自以为是

处理感情的方法:

压抑,否定

将感情注入工作 / 活动中,追求完美,愿意跟大队,讨厌不守规则的人。

身体语言:挺硬,可以长久保持,同一姿势;面部表情变化少,严肃,笑容不多;讲话方式 / 语调缺乏幽默感,直接;毫不留情,不懂得婉转;重复讯息多次;速度偏慢,声线较尖。

常用词汇: 应该、不应该;对、错;不、不是的;照规矩

工作环境:环境稳定不变;精确工作标准,技术性;不需牵涉办公室政治。

不能处理逆境时出现的特征:强逼性性格:

背后感情=愤怒\憎厌\嫌弃\忞憎;吹毛求疵;需索过度,要求过高;支配;驾驭\控制;完美主义;高度控制;自我批评;追求高度自律他律.

一号警钟:过强的责任感: 我不做谁做,还是我做更好,执着于纠正\组织\控制环境;焦点放在错;担子日益沉重.

座右铭:循规蹈矩

典型冲突:我对你错

优点:肯承担责任 , 有正义感

缺点:不时看到可以改善的地方 , 令同事觉得总是做得不够好

最适宜的工作环境:架构明显 , 规条清晰 , 需要留意细节

不适宜的工作环境:新公司 / 新生意 , 变化大

管理方案:以身作则

令人舒服地方:公正 \ 赏罚分明 \ 情绪稳定

令人不舒服地方:批判态度 \ 追求完美 \ 吹毛求疵

沟通要素:措辞精确 , 不得模棱两可;说话要具权威性;有心理准备一号倾向批判 , 尝试将批判 , 说话转化为正面的建议;容许一号辩论事情的正反两面;帮助一号抒发心中的不满。

尊重一号的理想及远见;赞誉一号订立的卓越水准;诚恳 \ 公正;安排受一号新生的人给予经常性的响应;确保一切程序及架构的清晰度;教育一号 ( 错 ) 是 ( 对 ) 的校调点。

时间管理:与时间竞赛;解救方案;不必要 ( 完美 ),( 够好 ) 就可以了;焦点为在目标 / 结果;支持一号做出授权;帮一号将对别人的批判转化为建议;拨出时间放松及享受生命 , 太紧逼的时间表令一号过度自我批判。

达成协议:一号容易将协议误会为妥协;一号的字典中没有妥协 , 只有对与错;将事实 \ 数据搞清楚 , 引导一号去商讨双赢的决定。

常见问题:鼓气袋 , 无病呻吟 , 偏见

解救方法:邀请一号讲出不满;欣赏他的责任感及承诺感;帮助他对事物拥有平衡的看法。

九型人格分类
第一型完美型8 第二型助人型7 第三型成就型6
第四型自我型5 第五型理智型4 第六型忠诚型5
第七型活跃型6 第八型领袖型5 第九型和平型6
July 08

装修大计

找到一个有亮点的设计,就是太挤了一点
April 24

Strength Finder

I finally managed to finish the strengthfinder test in www.strengthfiner.com. Here are my top 5 strengths discovered by them. How many of them are real? I would be so powerful if the 5 strengths were real.
 
我的标志主题:

Restorative/排 难 : 排除故障的行家里手善于发现问题并解决问题。

Competition/竞 争 : 竞争性强的人参照他人的表现来衡量自身的进步。他们力争第一,陶醉于竞争的喜悦中。

Significance/追 求 : 追求主题较强的人希望在别人的眼中非同凡响。他们独立性强,渴望被承认。

Relator/交 往 : 交往能力强的人喜欢人际间的亲密关系。他们最大的满足是与朋友一道为实现一个目标而同舟共济。

Deliberative/审 慎 : 他们每做一个决定均慎之又慎,并设想所有的困难。


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November 08

tennis

报了一个网球班,和jf一起的。就在这个冬天了。
 
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